a girl's guide to finding a worthwhile guy... as written by a guy

first of all: if you're a girl in middle school, this doesn't apply to you. in fact, you don't need a relationship yet, so go enjoy your final years as a kid. yes, i know you like the cute boy in that one class, but you don't need him. and he doesn't need you. so you ladies can read this post, but it doesn't apply to you.

now that that's out of the way...

I've noticed that some of you girls are not so good at choosing boyfriends, or even guys to hang out with in general. so as a man who sees the inner workings of his fellow men's minds, here are some tips for finding a decent guy.

1. if he is the random cute guy at a concert/sporting event etc... he's probably not "the one." I really hope someone's told this to the girls who have asked me for my number at events. plus, it ruins the event for the guy in question, because now his mind is on the creepy girl who asked him out, instead of the coldplay show.

2. if you had to ask him out, he probably doesn't like you back. oh joel! how can you say that? if course he likes me! lol. no. Air a guy really likes you, loves you, and cares about you, he wants to be your knight in shining armor. when the knight makes the princess do all the work, it's because he's either a lazy bum or he doesn't like you.

3. a good man won't pressure you. "you should wear the blue shirt more often, cuz you look hotter in it." "I don't care about your stupid recital, come play halo with me." if your boyfriend has said anything even remotely like this to you... LEAVE HIM. NOW. he obviously doesn't respect you, and is a selfish little brat. if he loves you, he thinks you look good in anything, he comes to your events, he sets aside time just for you. if he's no doing this stuff, dump him. it'll be better for him.

4. does he have manners? it's old, it's cliche, but manners are important. again, a boy who really loves you will be your knight. knights will open the door, carry the books, pull out the chair, not spit on the floor, offer her the coat!

5. does he love his mom more than you? if so, that's actually good. it doesn't make him a momma's boy. his mom should be the most important person in his life. since you are not his wife, you are second. watch how he treats her. if he grumbles about everything she says, watch out, he'll treat you just like that. if he mutters under his breath about "all these stupid chores and stupid rules and blah blah blah," he'll do that to you too. but if he jumps in with fervor and alacrity, chances are, he'll do that for the other women in his life, too!

tbc... maybe.